There is a classic Simpson’s scene where everyone is talking in the lounge room and Bart is being ignored, he jumps on the couch, bangs a pot and runs around singing “I’m Bart pay attention to me”
Know anyone like that in your life?
They can fall under a few categories
From the I know it all, I am perfect and know better than you who and what you are what what your saying means
To the more harmless type that like to bask in the glory of attention by being constantly praised and showered with compliments as a way of boosting their self esteem
No matter what type of “Pay Attention” to me person you know you have to remember that you are pretty much talking to either a brick wall or a sponge
Now a brick wall is a funny thing, you can rant and rave at it, you can try and convince it its wrong, you can hurl stones and insults at it, you can send it peace and love, you can radiate warmth and positive energy at it and yet it remains a brick wall solid and unyielding.
Now a sponge on the other hand absorbs everything, and just when you think it is full and can take no more it sucks up even more, and more and more. Draining of your energy and time.
Ask yourself this are you a brick wall? Or a Sponge? (Not just in a few insecure moments here and there but all the time in your life?)
How do you deal with these types of people?
Some of them are unavoidable in day to day sitchuation’s others you can limit your contact with or remove from your life if needs be.
As hard as it is these people are akin to a child throwing a tantrum often the brick wall will use words and intellect to hammer home their opinion and will oft dissect everything you say scramble it up add stuff and then regurgitate it back to you unrecognisable in its form.
Now here is the thing with the brick wall person you need to hammer into your brain now once you recognise them for who they are STOP RESPONDING! Now like a child throwing a tantrum its is going to get far far worse before they will not like being ignored and hopefully move on or start to think about the possibility their behaviour is unbecoming and generally douchey. Well we can live in hope. But to get frustrated and annoyed at a brick wall doesn’t serve any purpose or help you in anyway so it is best to take a deep breath, let it go and let whatever they have done go rather than incur the negativity that they will oft try and generate.
Now a sponge is another type entirely their often absorbent nature and need for reassurance stems from strong insecurities and deep seeded fears. Now they can be somewhat clam like in that they will not always tell you where these stem from and it takes time and patience to water the seeds to help them to identify what is causing this behaviour and two to address it. Now we all like compliments but unless we feel good about ourselves from within it’s never going to resonate or be believable. So helping a sponge see their own self worth is the best gift and thing you can do here.
However a sponge wrapped brick wall oi you should run and run fast!
Till next we meet on life’s journey remember that how you react is your choice, how others behave and react is in their hands alone.
In Love and Light