I have been giving this a lot of thought in my downtime without net or a TV to distract me.
The early days of love are filled with magic and promise, we often get so swept up in the magic of this new adventure we see a bright shining future that in some cases may never materialise or may happen depending on who is involved and where they are at and how things progress. What we often forget is that you don’t just skip from falling in love to happily ever after. There are many steps in between.
Funny but thinking of one of my early exes sometimes people become caught up in the Hollywood notion of love and romance that it has to be all or nothing, that the journey to love through the important steps is often over looked in favour of the process. You know the big romantic boy meets girl, there is some sort of conflict or barrier to their being together, this is played out and then overcome with some insanely huge romantic gesture and they ride off into the sunset of happily ever after.
Real life is rarely so cut and dried. When we are in the fantasy of love the whole Ideal of what we would like the future to be it is so easy to see only what we want, to forget that it is not going to happen in five minutes and that some of the steps we are contemplating will take time.
Nothing in life worth having just lands in our laps and magically creates the perfect future. We also need to work and grow towards it. Everything in life we achieve or create step by step. Love and a future is no different. Sure when you’re in love you have wings and creating those things is not a chore nor does it feel like work. The more effort or work you both put in the stronger the foundation, the easier it is to handle the hurdles that life will throw at you together.
Love can be one of the scariest things around for some people, especially those who have never truly been shown true unconditional love. Love is something that we can crave, or wish for but until we can truly love ourselves inside out, we will never truly be ready for the greatest adventure life has to offer us. True Twin Flame Love. A gift so magical and rare that we truly need to be ready for it when it comes into our lives.
The Fantasy is that romance creates itself, that it’s always the big gestures that will mean the most. Maybe for some this is the case. However the little things are what keep the spark and a relationship going long term. Whilst the big gestures of love are amazing when they happen they are not something that can be kept up 24/7 and let’s face it they become boring and meaningless when overused.
It takes such a small effort to show gratitude for all the little things we have in life. In any relationship it is so easy to forget how lucky we are to have a partner in life. Someone to walk along the journey with, to laugh with, to cry with, to celebrate with. It is often the things that take such a minimal amount of effort that can mean the most be it in a love relationship or friendship.
I have also been thinking about what my happily ever after would be. Anyone who knows me knows I have been rather obsessed with a book called Bet Me by Jenny Cruise, and that is a question that comes up in the book.
Mine is rather simple, I want to have My Mr Right (My Rory), be loved mind, body and spirit and loving them that way in return, a place with an awesome craft room, a paid ask Amanda Column and writing work and to have a working website that’s easy for me to maintain. The rest is simple someone to laugh with, share with, love with, have amazing chemistry and journey along life together with. Be it Facing our fears side by side or floating in a happy place.
That’s it well a few other things that don’t need to be posted here. But you get the gist. So the question to ask yourself is: What is your fairytale? What is the happily ever after you seek?
Till next we meet on life’s journey May your journey into the land of love be a happy wonderful one.