Apologising, admitting your wrong or saying a heartfelt sorry does not make you weak. In fact it makes you an extremely strong person
It takes true courage to admit when you are wrong, have done the wrong thing or have behaved in a bad way.
Then why are we so afraid to apologise for the things we have done wrong. Sometimes we know instantly others the realisation is slower to dawn.
I am a big believer in apologising. Not just a throw away sorry either but heartfelt apology. There is little or no point to a begrudging apology. It serves no purpose and at its heart does not make either party feel better.
True courage comes from being able to admit you are human, that you make mistakes, that like everyone you are far from perfect.
God knows I know that I am nowhere near perfect. (In fact I am far from it)
The one thing I have learnt is that whilst you may not get instant forgiveness from the other person. Knowing you have had the courage and honesty to not only acknowledge your fault in whatever has happened but to also stand up and take responsibility is not a small thing.
Why then do people see an apology as a sign of weakness?
Of giving in and god forbid admitting we make mistakes?
How do we learn and grow if we do not make mistakes?
Sometimes in the course of life we handle things poorly, inadvertently hurt someone by our actions or words or lack of actions and words. There is a myriad of ways this can happen. I am sure in your own life you can think of a few examples of this.
So often it is so much easier to walk away, to leave words unspoken, to not take accountability for our actions.
But what is the point in not admitting to who we are faults and all?
We make mistakes, at times spectacularly dumb mistakes. We say stupid things in hurt and anger. We act out on past baggage at times without even realising we are.
Why then do we find it so hard to say from the heart? I am so sorry.
Why do we find it so hard to stand up and look at why we behaved in a certain way?
Because it is hard to acknowledge the bad parts of ourselves as well as the good.
Because sometimes we are merely thoughtless and do not realise it needs to be said.
It does not matter if it is a day later, a month, a year or 10 years. If you feel you have something to apologise for DO IT!
This is not just about cleansing you. Actually you know this really is not about that at all! It is about having the respect for the person you have hurt, done the wrong thing by, or acted thoughtlessly towards. It is about having the courage and strength to admit you make mistakes.
It is about doing what is right in a world where it becomes easier and easier to walk away from our mistakes.
It takes true courage to stand up and admit to our faults and failures.
Till next we meet on life’s journey may you have the courage to admit your mistakes, to acknowledge your thoughtless behaviour, but most of all may you have the courage to apologies deeply and from the heart.
In love and light